Brother G., Chicago, IL:

“I have been thinking about having more kids. I already have one which resulted in a crazy custody case. He lives with me now and I was thinking about having some siblings for him. I have been dating an 11-year-younger woman who is ready for kids and shows a lot of attention to my son. What do you think? Should I just keep what I have and forget about the rest, or take a chance and see what happens? I just don’t want to get married. “

The Love Lawyer:

Perhaps you should call the psychic network and see if they are having a sale on child-rearing readings? If you are truly desirous of having more children without the strings attached, then research adoption alternatives or a surrogate to give birth to the child. If you cannot make up your mind, consider having more child-oriented parties and play dates for your son. You can also enlist nieces and nephews to widen your son’s sphere of family and friends. The parties and presence of more children will either cause you to schedule a vasectomy or to decide to have more children, whether biological or adopted.